You Are Cordially Invited…

…to wander/wonder the road alongside us. We are three seasoned travelers reaching out to those of you who may be curious, reflective, and ready to consider alternatives to how you seek answers, make choices, and view the world around you. Our combined knowledge and experiences create a unique and measured wisdom that we wish to share with you. In turn we eagerly look forward to hearing back from you as you test out ideas, rethink what you read, and add your own perspective on the many topics presented here.

Although, none of us is more than an occasional social drinker and a bar is the least likely place you would find us, this idea formed from a reunion of sorts in a bar of our youth. The rest (and best) is yet to come.

We each extend a hearty and warm welcome to you and hope you’ll find what you’re looking for in our time together.

In collaboration, support, and wonderment,

Wal – Hen – Geo

  • The Tyranny of Small Things

    November 30, 2021 by

    Okay, where do you stand on the sliding scale of “Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff” to “The Devil’s in the Details”? Lately, I’m beginning to be aware of the tiny bits that portend larger problems; the marginal items that can trip you up. High School English drummed into our heads the notion of Macbeth’s dilemma:… Read more

  • Heart to Heart

    November 18, 2021 by

    Fairy tales can come trueIt can happen to you…If you’re young at heart….For as rich as you are it’s much better by far…..To be young at heart!And if you should survive to a hundred and five…Think of all you derive out of being alive…And here is the best part, you have a head start ..… Read more

  • On Change

    October 30, 2021 by

    I spend very little time with things that trigger pain, upset, anger, or loss.  I often measure it against how much better off I am than most of the people in the world and I move on.  Friends and family will confirm my discomfort with negative talk, self-pity, and complaints about things that are, in my mind,… Read more

  • Decathexis

    October 13, 2021 by

    “I don’t know why you say goodbye, I say hello” –The Beatles I took a week off and lost a friend. When I last talked with Steve, he was home in bed, waiting for an acquaintance to pick up the remainder of Rousey’s things. Rousey has been Steve’s dog and boon companion. Arranging for a… Read more

  • Do You Hear What I Hear?

    September 26, 2021 by

    I don’t often wax nostalgic about my early childhood.  It doesn’t often pop into my mind.  I imagine it was a pretty average childhood for a kid growing up in one of the lesser urban boroughs of NYC.  We played in the streets, walked to school in groups, played Chinese handball at playground time at… Read more

  • A Reminder to Self

    September 11, 2021 by

    I have always felt compassion and responsibility for the environment.  As a young teacher, I shared my enthusiasm for our planet and her resources with my students.  The books and chalkboards and overhead projector were often obscured by large and unruly plants, an enormous saltwater fish tank, blooming avocado pits suspended above water cups with multicolored toothpicks,… Read more

  • Thoughts after The All-Star Break

    August 2, 2021 by

    We’ve just had the all-star break in baseball – and if you are a Yankees’ fan, there’s not much to cheer about. The irony of Aroldis Chapman representing the Yankees is hard to fathom. Oh well. Yet, the spirit of the all-star game is meant to recognize the players who have achieved significant results through… Read more

  • Too Soon Oldt

    July 6, 2021 by

    I’m sitting here on a sweltering hot Sunday afternoon. Old age has given me the right to review my life, and look back on it trying to honestly evaluate it and how successful I was inside of it! My mom, a native Pennsylvanian, always used to quote an old Pennsylvania Dutch expression that has stayed… Read more

  • A Letter to My 85 Year Old Self

    June 24, 2021 by

    Good Morning, Hen! Happy 85!  Remember when you were 74 and you were beginning to recognize the benefits and limitations of aging?  Remember being home in the Hudson Valley for more than a year during the great pandemic?  Remember coming to the conclusion that enough had changed in your life that it was time to make a major… Read more

  • Drive

    June 6, 2021 by

    Recently, I made a trip to say goodbye to a close friend – he is moving south. It’s likely the last time we’ll visit face-to-face, so it was a bittersweet episode. But as the time approached to traverse the 85 miles to his house, I found myself becoming apprehensive in a manner that had no… Read more

  • Manana is Good Enough for Me – NOT

    May 20, 2021 by

    Since Covid, no-since childhood, I have procrastinated. I put things off til the last possible minute.  If something had to be done by Monday morning, I did it Sunday night. That has been the story of my life.  My dad called me lazy when he would get exasperated with me cause I needed his help… Read more

  • To Give or Not to Give

    April 29, 2021 by

    One of the constants in my life has been the request of others for me to donate money.  An endless list of charities find their way to my email box asking for me to donate to a cause.  Usually, via some internet magic, the requesting agencies are in line with my interests, beliefs, and passions.  More recently, political… Read more

  • Russell’s Teapot

    April 17, 2021 by

    Maundy Thursday is a profoundly sad day. It reminds me of our unfailing default behavior of cruelty and self-service. It doesn’t take much to see how that behavior is still present in our DNA. Perhaps it is a collateral requirement for survival that we can justify any action which assuages our fears. This is a… Read more

  • The Family I Never Met

    March 30, 2021 by

    I recently received a package from the executor of my brother’s partner’s will.  In the envelope were letters that my dad wrote to my mom during the war when he was stationed on Iwo Jima.  The picture is a photograph of my mom, my dad, and big brother.  It was taken sometime in 1941 or… Read more

  • Labels

    March 13, 2021 by

    I find it nearly impossible to negotiate in this world without attaching labels.  That labels help us organize and categorize, thus giving us a sense of order, I understand.  It’s the extension of that practice beyond the need for context that causes me to question my reality. While labels are beneficial they can also negatively impact our… Read more

  • Amicus Brief

    February 27, 2021 by

    I’ve been thinking about friendship, particularly since Jack and Gregg commented about the desire to call a group of friends together after this COVID isolation. Friendship — The ancient Greeks had a name for it: Philia – and they held it separate from affection of other sorts: Storge: nurturing love given to children and those… Read more

  • Evolution of a Recluse

    February 14, 2021 by

    I have always loved to be around people.  Coming from a loud, touchy Italian family I rarely was alone.  Actually I disliked being alone and still do. My careers lent themselves to enabling me to be around people most of the time.  A class full of children or an innful of guests was what was comfortable… Read more

  • Putting Down Roots – Pulling Up Stakes

    February 4, 2021 by

    Extending the question of self-reflection from our last post, I wonder aloud if I’m still in the right place. Putting down roots has been fairly clear and straightforward for me.  It took two years of weekends to find the place I now call home.  As soon as I stepped out of the car I was drawn to… Read more

  • Reflecting on a Lifetime

    January 22, 2021 by

    I have reflected back on my life at several different times.  Taking an honest look at yourself is scary and sometimes dangerous.  As a young kid I often wanted to be anybody else but me.  I saw my friends on the block and was envious for all kinds of reasons.  Stephen and Brian across the… Read more

  • It’s Time

    January 12, 2021 by

    We have been trying hard to turn the page of the calendar to a new year, but the bad karma of 2020 wants to linger. The unimaginable events of Dec 37 makes you wish we could skip ahead in time – or go back and change decisions. Usually, when I think about time, it’s from… Read more

  • Questions for Reflection

    December 31, 2020 by

    One year ends, another begins.   According to Wikipedia a New Year’s resolution:  “is a tradition, most common in the Western Hemisphere, but also found in the Eastern Hemisphere, in which a person resolves to continue good practices, change an undesired trait or behavior, to accomplish a personal goal, or otherwise improve their life.” While the intentions are… Read more

  • Merry Griping

    December 24, 2020 by

    When Christmas and Covid intersect it brings out some strange feelings and reactions. Reflection usually is nostalgic for me.  Pleasant memories waft through my mind.   Smells carry me back to the warmth of grandparents and holidays and the intersection of both those things!  Favorite past times rush back and desire wells up inside me… Read more

  • Words: A Prolegomenal Disquisition

    December 15, 2020 by

    English — you have to love it!  The title comes by way of WordGenius, a daily feed of words you never knew existed — and may never have a chance to use. My high school English teacher used to encourage us to use “thousand dollar words” in order to expand our vocabulary. I still love… Read more

  • Where Do We Go From Here?

    December 1, 2020 by

    Most of us desire to be in community – a place where people feel valued, accepted, and connected.  And, while communities are often founded around common goals and interests, they vary greatly in regards to their openness and collaboration with other communities and with society as a whole.  It appears that we are currently experiencing more entrenched… Read more

  • Go Back Where You Came From

    November 24, 2020 by

    I did!  One of the most incredible experiences I ever had was going back to where I came from.  My entire life I was surrounded by the crazy Italian Family that I came from- or at least half of me!  Holidays consisted of people yelling at each other, all at the same time.  Half in… Read more

  • Falling Down

    November 12, 2020 by

    George hurt himself. He was simply trying to put out the garbage one evening when his dog, Devin, body- checked him and proved once again that stone is harder than face. George wound up with a boot on his foot and luckily did not need one for his face. Devin was apologetic, but Devin was… Read more

  • Help!

    October 28, 2020 by

    Asking for help has never been easy.  As a child I believed that working hard, persevering, and striving for independence was the way to be. And since my mindset has always been to do it myself, asking others to lend a hand, especially with something I could somehow figure out on my own, is not easy… Read more

  • Take Time to Smell the Roses

    October 18, 2020 by

    During this time of sadness and concern due to the intersection of this horrid election season and COVID-19, a time when little is happening to be positive about I actually became surprised.  In fact, when I think of these last 7 or so months, where days pass by almost unnoticed, one sliding into the other without… Read more

  • One Sigma

    October 10, 2020 by

    Once upon a time I won an award for achieving outstanding quality in an organizational context. I also taught six sigma concepts to managers in the company for which I worked. If you missed the six sigma effort, it had to do with reaching 99.99966% accuracy in deliverables or products by engineering efficient and repeatable… Read more

  • Simplicity

    September 28, 2020 by

    My red-tinged maple Duke by my side The sharp line of shadow and sunlight on my garden My own schedule Freedom of choice to do as I may Time to wonder while I wander The gentlest of breezes Perfect coolness Endless blue sky Learning to be in stillness as an end in itself Accepting the… Read more

  • As the World Turns

    September 17, 2020 by

    This past winter slowly, almost imperceptibly melted into spring. Winter temps were very mild and snowfalls almost negligible.  But as spring arrived so did Covid 19 and the accompanying isolation. Spring, usually accompanied with people spilling out of their houses, going to yard sales, nurseries, flea markets with their friends were stifled by the need… Read more

  • I-dentity

    September 11, 2020 by

    I’m sitting at the dining room table with my grandsons. We’re discussing the use of semi-colons. Yikes, why? Well I read a squib in The Week, indicating that young people find it hostile when older people, such as myself, use a period in a text message. I wondered why and asked my two young consultants.… Read more

  • When We Struggle

    August 29, 2020 by

    We all have different thresholds for what moves an inconvenience into the struggle category.  And, because words have different meanings for each of us, to acknowledge struggle doesn’t mean the same thing for everyone – anyone for that matter.   Some define struggle as  “work hard to deal with or overcome a difficulty or challenge.”  Notice this is written… Read more

  • Holy Mary, full of grace

    August 18, 2020 by

    During this quarantine and period of reflection my daughter and I have been ordering in food on Sunday evenings and the three of us(my dog) enjoy each other’s company for a couple hours.  We sit in her living room and watch movies on her super gigantic Smart TV screen.  The movies we have watched are… Read more

  • The Ties That Bind

    August 5, 2020 by

    We’re sitting in our truck, parked along the periphery of the church parking lot. It’s a hot morning and we’re taking advantage of the shade provided by the catalpa trees. There are a number of vehicles around the lot, spaced like a string of pearls. Only two brave souls are in the middle of the… Read more

  • The Pets in My Life

    July 27, 2020 by

    The Pets in My Life I’ve always been drawn to animals.  When asked what animal I would choose to be other than human, I immediately think of wolf.  But, since I can’t become a wolf or have one in my home, I’ve enjoy the companionship of dogs. When I was eight and my father still lived with… Read more

  • A Special Place

    July 12, 2020 by

    I have always lived in old houses. Not historical old houses just old.  Since I was a kid I have lived in 7 houses.  I always found comfort in each house by finding a place that made me feel safe and invisible.  As a kid those places were away from the family usually in the attic.   The… Read more

  • Friend – For a Lifetime

    June 23, 2020 by

    Fiercely independent!Enjoys his own companyShares moments with others on his own termsHe is authentically his own person A biker, a hiker, he enjoys the outdoorsWindows wide open on an aging, weathered faceLike a moth to the flame, he is drawn to the horizonA modern day cowboy, he rides solo into the sunset A husband and… Read more

  • People Who Need People

    June 16, 2020 by

    From early on in my life I have had people come into my life.  Some came in, stay for a while and then disappear.   Some others come and pitch camp here.  Some of those people had a heavy impact on my life intentionally or not.  Sometimes they were the people you would least expect who… Read more

  • Tower of Song

    June 3, 2020 by

    Hen suggested the topic of diminishment — particularly of physical decline. We wrote about a similar sense of aging in George’s earlier post The Golden Years. However, this topic is a bit more pointed. George ended that post with a poem that fits the bill – about the inevitable crankiness of the body… or as… Read more

  • Gram

    May 30, 2020 by

    Continuing George’s topic of random thoughts, I wanted to share some musings about my grandmother. After the death of my grandfather, gram came to live with us and became an integral part of our family.  At sixty-nine, she was still a great cook, mobile, and strong-willed.  She could also sew everything and anything having been a seamstress… Read more

  • Random Thoughts while Quarantined

    May 21, 2020 by

    Thinking for me was always a form of worry.  Even as a kid I used to worry about my dad coming home late a night after drinking with the men at the Knights of Columbus.  Or wondering if I would have to go to Mc Auliffe’s Tavern to bring him home for dinner.  But whenever I… Read more

  • Rinse and Repeat

    May 12, 2020 by

    I’m re-reading Ecclesiastes. Even if you haven’t picked up a Bible, you know Ecclesiastes. You know it if you have listened to ‘Turn, Turn, Turn‘ by the Byrds, or have heard ‘there is nothing new under the sun’, ‘vanity — all is vanity’, and other familiar quotations which have come from this contentious book in… Read more

  • Rituals

    May 6, 2020 by

    Lately, I’m increasingly aware that many of my daily routines have taken on added significance and meaning beyond the need to get them done.  They have become rituals.  Perhaps it’s the reduction of distractions during this time of sheltering in place that has allowed me to be more mindful.  Or, it could be that without regular stimulation of… Read more

  • New Normal ???

    April 28, 2020 by

    As sheltering and snacking in place is becoming routine I sometimes find myself on my knees and leaning my head on my arms resting on the windowsill like the cartoon where the guy says to his dog that he now understands why he always barks as people pass the house. It is an event! I… Read more

  • On a Scale of…

    April 21, 2020 by

    We’ve all heard the jokes about weight gain during the shelter-in-place phase of life — COVID-19 lbs. and such. It’s gotten me thinking about a seven year period in which I measured life in quarter pound increments. This was during high school and college, while participating in wrestling. I would have told you then that… Read more

  • A Time for Collaboration

    April 14, 2020 by

    Napoleon Hill developed the term Mastermind Alliance to identify the concept of bringing two or more people (minds) together for a singular purpose in a friendly, trusting, and harmonious environment. The outcome of this focused collaboration often yields extraordinary results that could never be reached alone or in loosely connected partnerships.  This synergy has been the… Read more

  • Tintinnabulation of Spring

    March 31, 2020 by

    This sheltering in place is getting old!  But the seriousness of the situation necessitates us to do our civic duty to our community, family and friends, while at the same time protecting ourselves. My friend called last night and wanted to have a serious conversation about our current situation.  Both of us are in our… Read more

  • Gimme Shelter!

    March 26, 2020 by

    ‘Shelter in place’, a term that we all will remember for a long time. The effort to maintain social distance while slowing down COVID-19 infections seemed like science fiction just six weeks ago. We ‘Three Old Guys’ skyped to discuss what we might write about in this edition. Our purpose would be not only to… Read more

  • Living Eulogies

    March 10, 2020 by

    Early in my career in education, I attended a Board of Education meeting where one of the agenda items was the elimination of all Elementary Assistant Principals. As I sat in the dark auditorium, I listened to members of the community come to the microphone to express their opinions on the motion. Many spoke in… Read more

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